“Here's all you have to know about men and women: women are
crazy, men are stupid. And the main reason women are crazy is that men are
stupid.” George Carlin
A few weeks ago I did a mythbuster post about the women, so
it’s only right that I do one on the men.
Yes, Yes, Yes I know, you’re thinking “what do I know about busting
myths about men?” and to be quite honest, probably nothing. Hell, the more I think I know about men, the
more I realize that I know… not a damn thing.
Siiiigggghhh but I’ll give it a shot….eff it…YOLO!
Please realize that as I type this, this is totes from a
women’s perspective, but my fellow men, please feel free to chime in? Since I know you all read this blog *looks
directly at you*
Nik’s Mythbusting
Mythbuster….about men:
1)
Men can handle any and everything.
I don’t know what or who gave us
our view on men, but somehow we’ve made the men in our lives a superhuman
species. As women, we’re allowed to have
fear, be scared, cry, have stress and any and every other emotion we can
conjure up yet for some reason let our man have a moment and we’ve categorized him
as weak. It’s odd. Fear is fear, stress
is stress and I’m perplexed as to why we assume our men shouldn’t react as
so.
Ladies, ladies, ladies too many times I see women dump the burden of
the household on their husband, boyfriend, live in, man…whomever, and this is
unfair. Stress has many side effects to
it, like heart disease, high blood pressure etc. If you want to be with your partner from here
until eternity, I suggest you learn to bear some of that burden and PARTNER
with your man. He’s is not invincible
and certainly not above the perils of stress.
2)
Men
don’t feel pain.
Okay, have we talked about how I
lived with my father in high school? This would be my test market and because of
this I have deemed myself an expert of sorts on this topic (If you knew my
father, you’d know why) there’s no one intolerant to pain like that man! Shit, he’s “sick” as I type this, and if he
calls me one more time coughing in the phone… *punches air*
Anywho, the quickest way to prove
this theory wrong is to watch a guy get…let’s say…a chest cold. -_- hahaha I believe I can end this one
here. Listen, if a guy gets the
sniffles, be prepared to stop everything you’re doing to cater to that
man. When God made men, he made them
brute, brawn, but softer than Charmin. This. Is. A. Fact. #missingverseingenesis
3)
Gossiping
is just for women.
There’s some man out there that’s
reading this like “Who??? I don’t gossip?!’ Pah-lease! Not only do men gossip
and talk, but they are always in the know.
Where do you think we get our info from???? LOLOL. Yo, one time I broke my leg in graduate
school, and my friend that was staying with me and helping me out (he’s going
to kill me) used to read my gossip magazines on the low, but didn’t want anyone
to know, however since I totaled my car and was on crutches, our magazine collection
came to an instantaneous halt. So one
day he was like “Aye, when your friends come over to bring you dinner, why
don’t you tell them to pick up some of those magazines you like to read” and
had the nerve to whisper it to me.
Sir?????
4)
Men
hate conversation ESPECIALLY over the phone
Men don’t just gossip, they like to
talk too…a lot. My longest phone convos that I have are with men…about nothing. Okay no I take that back, it’s been about
something….THEM. Men are SUPES
talkative!!!! It always kills me when they complain that women talk, ha! Men
will go on, and on, and on, and on about their favorite topic, themselves! That’s
the tee hee hee of it all! Listen, of my
3 best male friends, I know eveeeeerything about them. They will attempt to tell you about me, they
will be wrong. Trust me on this, I test them every so often, they never fail to
disappoint.
5)
Men are concerned about matching bras and
panties.
Warning this may be TMI, but show
me a guy who cares about such a thing and I have a bridge to sell you. Don’t get me wrong, you can’t just wear your PP’s
(period panties) on such occasions lol I mean let’s NOT be trifflin’ now however,
my teal bra and fuchsia undies have never gone noticed. Hell, he may just think I probably go
commando or something. If you think I’m
lying next time you’re with your loved one, test it. I triple dog dare you to wear a polka dot bra
and leopard undies and you report back and tell me if HE noticed. I won’t hold my breath…carry on….
6)
Men
care about hairstyles and weave quality.
So, it’s not so much that they
don’t caaaaaaare about the way their girl looks per se. I suppose they do.
However the little nuances like poor weave/wig quality, a shit load of makeup,
or freeze dried hair doesn’t necessarily scare them off as we think it would. One time a friend asked me about a girl and my immediate response was “I
mean her weave looks ridiculous, like did she need all 42inchs?? And she has
mad foundation on, do you even know what she looks like under that?? Her
lashes?? A witch perhaps?? ” His response….. “Soooo?” LOLOL I knew right then that our views of attractiveness
were different and what I was looking at, he didn’t necessarily see. Now don’t ask me what he was looking at or
for, I have no answers. But I’ll assume her flat stomach and fat ass overrode
the potential welfare of the genes of their future children. But I digress, what
I’m trying to say is, a chick wearing a cat on her head has never stopped them
from….well…ummm…you fill in the blank -_-
7)
Men
don’t have feelings and aren’t emotional.
Okay, So I’m going to be honest. I
just kind of heard this is true, aside from my daddy I’ve never really seen
this proven and I’ve only seen him emotional once or twice in my 36 years. So, I thiiiiiiiink men may get emotional, the
only problem is that it doesn’t stay long enough for me to make it a tried and
true fact. That shit is fleeting and
when I say fleeting, I mean abracadabra! From my research, men are only emotional if
their pride is hurt. Is pride synonymous
to feelings? I think it’s as close as we can get eh? Yeah, I said it. POW!
8)
Men
don’t like intimacy.
I’ve said it before, and I’ll say
it again. No one, Nobody, NO-BODY likes
to cuddle more than men. No one likes to
hold hands in public more than men. No
one likes caresses more than men. Why this has become a myth is beyond me! They
hide it from each other like its taboo.
As if finding out they like to spoon all night long is indication that they
are crying in their cornflakes every day.
Don’t be ashamed that you like to snuff the space out of your lady! Fellas, claim that shit!
My bad, this is actually not a
myth…
10)
Men
know exactly who they are and what they want
The reality is everyone struggles
with this. No one gender is any wiser
about who they are and what they want.
We are confused. They are confused.
We chase our “ideal” guy, they chase their “ideal” girl. When you’re
delusional, you’re delusional and having a penis doesn’t give you anymore
clarity than the next. The only problem
is we as women have decided that they know who they want and what they want,
and are waiting for them to want us. Uhhhh no!
The power lies in you too….boo (sorry y’all know I can’t fight a good rhyme).
11)
Men
can’t cook or clean.
Okay, last post we spoke of my skills *ahem* or lack
thereof they were on a bit of the struggle side for a woman, but on the flip side some men can really throw down! Listen, I have a
friend from Mississippi who can not only cook the meanest pork chop and gravy
dish I’ve ever had, but mopped my floor so well I could eat off that
joint. I will never doubt the skills of
a man again; as a matter of fact one of the things on my “list” is a
domesticated man, because lord knows I most certainly am….not.
I have sooooo many more, soooo many more, but to be fair I
didn’t want men to believe I’m picking on them. I mean there is “Men can’t be into fashion”,
“PMS is only for women”… I mean I could
go on for daaaaays but we’re not here for my vent session or are we? LOL Listen,
these myths are expertly proven. They
ARRREEE trust me! I have seen, experienced, reacted, and now I’m trying to tell
you! It’s a dangerous job, but someone
has to do it no?
Sincerely,
Nika, the people’s advocate
Now who’s gonna check me boo?????